Your Expectations Depend on Where You Look


My kid’s call me “a warner.” Though I didn’t know this until relatively recently. The truth is, I have a tendency to look for all possible pitfalls, potholes, or troubles that might present problems. It doesn’t matter if it’s a goal I’m pursuing or something my kid’s are considering…I identify the problems. I am very good at it.

I hate it, though. You see, I very much want to avoid disappointment. So I prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Honestly, I seem to forget the hope for the best part.

I must see myself as if a sentry at his post keeping any harm from coming to those I am to protect. I guess that would be fine, but it has the tendency to thwart or dampen enthusiasm for new ideas. Over the years, I have kept the “problems” I see more and more to myself. I’m trying not to be a wet blanket.

Looking for what can go wrong, saps the energy out of going for after a goal or following through on an idea you have.

I have always seen it as doing my due diligence. Walking through and planning for what might go wrong so I could decide whether it, whatever the idea was, was wise to proceed. The basic idea is having more information can produce better informed decisions. This is not broken.

What is important, however, is where you put your eyes…
where you put your focus.

My Pastor shared his story of his struggle and success with overcoming a serious health problem. During his struggle, he had found quotes that resonated with him and provided him with enthusiasm and motivation. One such quote hit me the most:

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start getting excited about what could go right.—unknown

When I heard it, I felt my eyes change focus from the problems (what could go wrong) to the successes (what could go right.)

I will try very hard to look more and more at what can go right. I understand how that can keep fan the coals of enthusiasm for success.

I want to share an article I found on, 4 Ways the Power of Suggestion Can Change Your Life, by Polly Campbell author of Imperfect Spirituality.

It deals with how the power of suggestion and our expectations influence achieving our goals and that this power of suggestion is always at work, for good or bad. So be careful.

I think it’s a good prescription for “getting excited about what could go right.”